Being focused on finding our, “Happy Place” is how we overcome our regret and depression mentioned in part 1(If you haven’t read part 1 yet, click here). Instead of dwelling on our daily grind, we’ve begun to look towards our shared goals.
So here is how our future together looks. We find a nice 3 to 4 bedroom house or condo in Port Aransas, TX. Big enough for a family vacation but small enough to make it easily rentable.
Will name it my wife’s “Happy Place”.
It will have to have a balcony off the Master bedroom with a direct view of the gulf. So that we will be able to hear the waves crash against the sand, as we sleep. This is a must.
The kids’ had regret that we had to return home. And so did I.
My family and I just came back from a wonderful trip for our 11th anniversary. My wife always wanted a beach wedding. The best I could do when we first got married, was a park overlooking a small local lake.
Last year, for our 10th anniversary, I surprised her with a full beach wedding/vow renewal. I managed to find a magnificent beach house, big enough for her to have family stay with us. The master bedroom had a balcony which looked directly out to the ocean.
My wife grew up visiting the beach at Port Aransas, TX with her mom and stepdad. She absolutely loves the beach. And like her mom, calls Port A her ‘Happy Place’.
My nightly routine is fundamental but consistent. At the end of the night, I sit down, I grab my journal, and I write, and I answer three basic questions:
What went right?
What didn’t go right?
What am I most grateful for today?
I have to remember the routines that it takes for me to stay clean on a regular basis.
As we begin to learn to inventory our lives, we find the routines that we never knew we had that fed our addictions, our depressions, our anxieties. We see that during those moments, we were on autopilot. As we focused on our depression, our depression deepened. As soon as we become consumed by our anxiety or the hunger to feel different, our compulsions and obsessions grow. Continue reading “What we measure we grow!”