I’ve learned not to resent those who have what I don’t.
One of the things I’ve struggled with is resenting those with greener grass. Today I have the mortgage. The wife who never knew me drunk or high. The three kids that never knew me, drunk or high and two of them never even knew me to smoke cigarettes. Yeah. I’ve got a lot of those changes, what a brother calls ‘quality of life’ problems.
I’m about to go to my boss’s house today, and this is something we do every year for the fourth of July. One of the last big productions we do in the summertime is setting up at his ranch. They call it the BJ ranch because it’s Brian and Joanna. (I couldn’t leave that out) They’ve got a beautiful house with a guest house, a multi-bay garage. It’s a large property. The guy that provides our fireworks is the same guy that does the fireworks for two of the local professional sports teams. So it’s a professional setup, fully choreographed.
When I first started working for them, full-time ten years ago, I used to hate doing fourth of July at his house. I never went because I always thought he was bragging about what he had. Today I understand he’s not showing off, he’s sharing what he has. He’s done good for himself, and he enjoys sharing it.
A damn good example.
My bike has been down for a while now. I’m in the process of doing a complete rewiring job on it. The club I ride with has a run coming up in just over a week. I haven’t been able to ride to a run in over a year. I’ve gone to them, but I’ve had to cage it. (It’s just not the same on four wheels with windows) My boss has a beautiful custom trike sitting in the third bay of his garage. I was messing with him when I asked him, “you going to let me ride that to Tulsa”? His response?
He is loaning me his trike.
He responded by saying, “Well, I haven’t ridden it in about year. We’ll have to see if we can get it serviced before your run”. We trailered it to the shop the very next day. They got it done. It’s 100 percent ready to ride to Tulsa this weekend, and he hasn’t changed his mind. He is still letting me ride his trike to Tulsa so that I could ride in the run.
I used to resent people who had what I didn’t have and what I’m learning is to bless the people who have what I don’t have. Because there are those that share it. There are those who are so grateful for their fortune that they become the most generous. I used to resent some of the old timers and predecessors because they had what I didn’t have.
Today I remember that we only keep what we have by giving it away.
If we can’t be grateful for what we have, we won’t be grateful for anything new once we get it.
“Always aspire to inspire, before we expire.”