Principles become Spiritual if they are Unconditional.

None of these Principles become Spiritual until they become Unconditional.

I could not surrender completely, on a spiritual level, until that Surrender or “waving of the white flag” became unconditional. I had to get to where I was not looking for anything else in return. And I can say, “I give, I surrender. Period.” The way I learned to surrender this way was through the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of recovery—specifically, the 2nd Step and Tradition. 

I was not about to surrender anything until “I came to believe” what I was surrendering too.

When you read the 12 Steps of recovery, you can see that Step Two states that we “came to believe in a power greater than ourselves that ‘could’ restore us to sanity.” Doesn’t say “would” it doesn’t say “will.” It clearly says, “could.” The reason for this is because we have to do something. We have to do our part. What we have to do is learn to surrender. 

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When We Surrender, We Win!

It may be a paradox, but when we surrender, we win.

Quote from my sixteen year old son, while explaining surrender to his sisters.

A man stands at the edge of a cliff, ready to give up on life. Right as he begins to leap, a giant hand suddenly reaches out from the clouds and grabs his collar. The man begins to struggle with the giant hand, yelling, “let me go, let me go! I have nothing left! I GIVE UP!”
The hand continues to hold on. Until finally, the man gets so tired of fighting. He surrenders.

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Wake up, get dressed and live a new day.

Its time to wake up, get dressed and live a new day. 

Screen shot of our dry erase board with the kid's at home schedule during the pandemic.

Keeping unity in the house can always be a challenge, even without being confined by a pandemic. For us to maintain our unity, we have to have some sense of normality.

Keeping a sense of “Normal Life” is what differentiates between Living Life or just existing. Maintaining unity in our house is how we nurture and support Hope. We do this by trying to live by the 12 Traditions of recovery.

Tradition One: Our common welfare Has to come first. Our individual growth and well-being depend on our family’s unity.

There are seven specific actions we employ in our house. To help bring some normality to us.

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