As a recovering addict, one realization I had to come to terms with early on was that self-centeredness was at the core of my addiction.
Being ultimately concerned with ‘fixing myself.’ Taking care of my inexhaustible hunger for more, not realizing how my addictive behavior affected everyone around me. I became sick without realizing I was sick.
It wasn’t until I became aware of how my self-centeredness had made my relations with others sick. How I brought harm and turmoil to those, I came into contact with, especially those closest to me, that I became able to see just how sick I had gotten.
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Note: This is a re-post from an article written in 2018 and lost during a site migration. Though I fill like it is still relevant today, personal Inventory and learning to maintain unconditional Honest is a daily endeavor I would like to think has progressed since this was first published.
There’s an old cliche that I first heard when I began my journey through 12 Step recovery, “we’re only as sick as our secrets.” A topic that can very much touch anybody, no matter where they are in life.
I just happened to be finishing up, going through my motives on my inventory again.
And my 4th Step inventory changes over time. My inventory is not nearly as specific to events as it used to be. There are not any secrets per se. When I inventory now, it has a lot broader perspective. It is more about how I respond to social situations, politics, Facebook posts, etc.
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If you want to empty a cup, you have to pour it out. If we’re going to empty our minds, we must allow our thoughts to pour out. Until nothing else is left but the quiet that is already there. Ultimately this means that we are learning to be receptive, and listening, just listening.
Meditation is a big part of my life today. I have meditations on my phone that I use regularly. If I’m running late, which I do a lot of times in the summertime, I’ve got a meditation on my phone to help me focus on breathing.
Because how we breathe controls our levels of stress.
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Whenever we get to talking about values, I have a little different perception. I don’t put a lot of weight into ‘values’ these days.
I’ve quit worrying about morals, stopped worrying about ethics, quit worrying about values. Those are subjective. Those are dependent on what we’re taught at any given time from the culture that we grew up in.
If you look up the definition of values, you won’t see ‘values’ itself. It is ‘value.’ A singular noun. Almost every definition has to do with ‘worth.’ Somewhere down in there, around the tenth definition, there will be one that says ‘values’ plural. And it’s still about worth and it, but it talks about the societal worth given by common ideas within a community.
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“We become able to make wise and loving decisions based on principles and ideas that have real value in our lives.”Just for Today