Whenever I think of change, I think of my dad. The first time I ever heard this saying was in 1988. I had been out of my house for a little while. I had about three years, clean and sober. At the time, I was only 18. I was homeless, and I ended up having to move in with my dad for the first time.
When the decision came for me to move in with him. One of the things that he said was, “there is no pain in change. There’s only pain in the resistance to change.” And it has stuck with me ever since.
I can recall a time when I had hurt a young lady that I had been dating. I had never been much on talking about my past. My focus has always been on moving forward. I’m not afraid of my past, that’s just me. But there was something from my past, that she found out about, that hurt her. And I remember saying to someone, with tears in my eyes, “I know that there is no pain in change, but damn it, I want to resist this change.” And I meant it.
“There is no pain in change, only in the resistance to change.” Something I learned from my dad, many years ago. My life today is all about change. My wife and I are trying to work towards establishing some routine, particularly when the kids are concerned. But our lives are still a work in progress.
As I work to complete the JnP(Journey in Principles) meditations, I’m attempting to develop a healthy habit of consistently working towards this goal. But while we are both developing our routines, we are both having to learn to fluctuate and bend with unforeseen events that come up. Continue reading “Feb 11th – No Pain in Change!”